#not all men
Women and young girls are assaulted, raped, and killed everyday… All because they said no or did not make themselves more available to men…
YET all you have to say is “Not all men”
Not only are you disregarding all of the facts..all of the proof that men have the power to do horrific things when rejected or denied, but you are placing the blame on the oppressed… You are telling victims that they are not entitled enough to fear you.. How dare they fear YOU…even if they have every right to do so.
You are getting into their heads… making them second guess themselves.
Making them believe that the uncomfortable situations they were forced into could have been avoided if they had just accepted the advances.. Or that every single situation is harmless and should not be viewed as the same or with the same caution…. Because being cautious is offensive to you.
How selfish is that? To tell someone that their safety doesn’t matter because catcalls and street harassment are expected and part of the norm… That it’s flattering and not harmful…Because boys will be boys…
When you bring life to that phrase “not all men ” you are saying
“I am aware of the dangers that women face at the hands of men…..but I’m not willing to fix the issue or advocate for it.. But what I AM willing to do is point the blame in any direction other than my own..”
"I don’t truly care about women at all.."
"Wake me up at 3am just to tell me that I’m not close enough. Wake me again at 7am because we need to get ready for the day. Once more at 7:15 because we both know I don’t do mornings. Tell me about the dream you had last night while we have toast and orange juice. I’m tired as hell but I hear and feel every single word that you say. Ask me how I slept because you feel like you’ve been talking for too long. My answer is always the same when you ask, sleeping next to you is heavenly. Apologize for waking me up at 3am while I assure you that it’s okay and that I’m so glad that you did, then rally in your stubborn persistence the notion that it was out of line. Start explaining how wrong it was. You won’t get very far into your rant because I need to kiss you. Not only to stop you from being ridiculous but because I love you so much more than I can express with words. So please, wake me up at 3am so I can pull you closer and kiss you softly. “I love you endlessly” will be my sleepy response each time; as those four words are the only ones that can even come close to explaining my feelings for you."
the bastard construct blew me away. like many 'third world' adoptees i been caught in this limbic state from a system that erases the mothers who gave birth to us then tries to make us grateful for the erasure. all my life i been told i'm an abandoned orphan, then last month my agency contacts me to admit none of it's true. very fishy and i'm not counting on ever meeting my birth mom but if i do maybe it'll feel like i'm in the world a bit more? it hurts but your poem made me hope. many thanks X
these tears are yours.
this honey is yours.
this strength i have left from the winter/ and some that i gathered last month, is yours.
it is yours because this journey has been tough on your organs
been tough on your abililty to convince yourself that the words
are not wind made of spit.
they are not.
i am telling you, love, they are not.
look at you, standing here, after your skin was taken from you
yet, here, you are
telling your story,
changing my life.
tell me that you are not magnificent.
thank you, for being on this earth.
- love, nayyirah
Boys don’t understand the horrible view girls have of themselves
I’ll always reblog this I think
I should show this to guys when they make comments.
no you dont understand how fucking accurate this is.
The view if myself is the view that is the chub jest on my entire body
THE FACT THAT THIS IS CONCIDERED A AFUCKING HORRIBLE VIEW OF HOW GIRLS SEE THEMSELVES PISSES ME OFF AND MAKES ME WANT TO STAB MY BED OKAY
LISTEN TO ME
YOU ARE FIRECRACKERS
YOU ARE A BLIZZARD
YOU ARE AN APOCALYPSE OF LOVE AND RAGE
YOU ARE NOT AND SHOULD NEVER BE DUMBED DOWN TO WHAT YOUR GODDAMN PERCENTAGE OF FAT TO MUSCLE IS
YOU ARE BROKEN BONES AND SCRAPED KNEES AND THROATED SCREAMS AND YOU
IF YOU LOOK LIKE THIS, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
IF YOU DON’T LOOK LIKE THIS, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
IF YOU THINK YOU LOOK LIKE THIS, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
I AM SICK AND FUCKING TIRED OF SEEING WONDERFUL, SMART, TALENTED, WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL GIRLS HATING THEMSELVES BECAUSE OF AN UNREALISTIC EXPECTATION SET ON THEM AT A YOUNG AGE
YOU ARE PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE
Bless this post
Bless the bolded add-on! I was hoping so hard that is finish scrolling and see a BAMF body posi person correct everyone!
I’ve always loved this photo.
(Source: lizbarfart, via dontwannasaygoodbye)