Women and young girls are assaulted, raped, and killed everyday… All because they said no or did not make themselves more available to men…
YET all you have to say is “Not all men”
Not only are you disregarding all of the facts..all of the proof that men have the power to do horrific things when rejected or denied, but you are placing the blame on the oppressed… You are telling victims that they are not entitled enough to fear you.. How dare they fear YOU…even if they have every right to do so.
You are getting into their heads… making them second guess themselves.
Making them believe that the uncomfortable situations they were forced into could have been avoided if they had just accepted the advances.. Or that every single situation is harmless and should not be viewed as the same or with the same caution…. Because being cautious is offensive to you.
How selfish is that? To tell someone that their safety doesn’t matter because catcalls and street harassment are expected and part of the norm… That it’s flattering and not harmful…Because boys will be boys…
When you bring life to that phrase “not all men ” you are saying
“I am aware of the dangers that women face at the hands of men…..but I’m not willing to fix the issue or advocate for it.. But what I AM willing to do is point the blame in any direction other than my own..”
"I don’t truly care about women at all..""
these tears are yours.
this honey is yours.
this strength i have left from the winter/ and some that i gathered last month, is yours.
it is yours because this journey has been tough on your organs
been tough on your abililty to convince yourself that the words
are not wind made of spit.
they are not.
i am telling you, love, they are not.
look at you, standing here, after your skin was taken from you
yet, here, you are
telling your story,
changing my life.
tell me that you are not magnificent.
thank you, for being on this earth.
- love, nayyirah